managing your emotions when trying to conceive for single moms by choice
Trying to conceive can be an emotional rollercoaster, filled with many feelings and uncertainties. For single mothers choosing this journey, these emotions can intensify as they face the challenges of infertility without a partner. I know because I've felt all these emotions when trying to conceive.
The Journey Begins: Day 1 of Round 5
I want to share a journal entry from my Day 1 of Round 5, capturing the whirlwind of emotions that come with trying to conceive repeatedly.
“Journal Entry of Day 1 of Round 5:
Ouch, that gets harder and harder to write the number of rounds. I honestly don't know what I am feeling.
The Mix of Emotions
It's such a mix of emotions right now...
💔 Disappointed - to start yet another round.
😰 Scared - to go through another round.
😢 Sad - just sad.
💔 Hopelessness - That this may not be the round.
🌟 Hopefulness - That this could be the round.
🤷♀️ Lost - What do I do? What can I do differently to make t?
🙍♀️ Alone - starting over again by myself.
💪 Strong - that I can do this again.
🙏 Grateful - that I can do this again and for all I do have.
😕 Confused - should I take a break?
🧘♀️ Calm - assured that this will happen."
Finding Strength in the Journey
Trying to conceive often evokes a wide array of emotions, from disappointment to hopefulness, confusion to strength, and everything in between; this emotional whirlwind reflects the intricate nature of the journey.
So, how do we navigate these various emotions while staying strong and focused on our path to becoming a single mom by choice?
Acknowledging and processing your emotions is vital for well-being during the trying-to-conceive phase.
Managing the Emotional Rollercoaster: Strategies That Helped Me
Journaling
I journaled my entire journey. It is such a powerful tool for self-reflection and self-awareness. As you go through the phases express your emotions, thoughts, and concerns in writing. Journaling allows you to explore the depths of your feelings and gain clarity amidst the chaos and loneliness. There was so much I was able to uncover and process through writing. Check out my journal prompts at each phase of the journey and more - Coming soon
Seeking Support:
Connect with others who are going through or have experienced similar challenges. Talk to your close friends and family about what you are feeling.
Online support groups, coaching or therapy sessions provide guidance, empathy, and encouragement.
Sharing your experiences and hearing others' stories creates a sense of community and understanding that can be immensely comforting. I wish reached out more for support during my journey.
Self-Care:
Prioritize self-care activities that promote relaxation, stress reduction, and overall well-being.
Recognize that you are physically, emotionally and mentally going through a lot.
Try to find activities that provide an outlet for emotional release. Whether it's exercise, yoga, meditation or a day at the spa, taking care of yourself is crucial during this journey.
For me, it was meditation and walks in nature or by the water.
Cultivating Patience:
Recognize that the journey may take time and that patience is essential. I honestly thought I’d be pregnant within three rounds of trying.
So, practicing self-compassion and allow yourself to experience a range of emotions without judgment.
Trust in the timing that is meant for you, and believe in your strength and resilience. Feel free to use my mantra.. My baby is coming in divine timing.
Finding Joy:
Despite the challenges, it’s so important to find moments of joy along the way. I lost my ability to find any joy after several rounds and from the medication fog.
I had to remind myself of what used to bring me joy and incorporate it into my days. Try as best you can to incorporate activities that bring you happiness, no matter how small they may seem.
Expressing Gratitude:
In the midst of navigating the emotional rollercoaster, practicing daily gratitude can be a powerful tool. I took a moment each day to reflect on the things I was grateful for to shift my focus towards the positives in my life and cultivate a sense of appreciation.
Conclusion
The path of trying to conceive is a deeply personal and emotional journey, and my journal entry highlights the complex range of emotions experienced on Day 1 of Round 5.
By acknowledging and processing these feelings, you honour your own emotional well-being and pave the way for resilience and growth.
Keep faith in the journey, nurture yourself along the way, and trust that your unwavering hope and strength will carry you forward.
—Reema
If you're seeking additional support, guidance, or personalized coaching services, I invite you to visit my website, explore my Instagram page, where you can learn more about my coaching services and discover valuable resources.
To take the next step in your journey, book a free consultation with me today. Together, we can navigate the highs and lows of this emotional rollercoaster and create a roadmap tailored to your specific needs.
